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7 Year Plan Update

Last year I wrote down my 7 year plan which includes the things that I want to accomplish by age 31. I wrote this list to keep me motivated and focused as I maneuver throughout life.

And since life is ever changing and I’m having a sweet baby girl this fall, I have decided to edit the plan and see what I’ve accomplished so far ✅. This allows me to praise myself just a bit and keep pushing forward.

I’ve also added some new goals and chosen specific ones that I want to achieve by the end of 2018 🔅. This way I won’t get overwhelmed with trying to accomplish all of my goals at once.

Personal Goals
✅ buy a car (my baby Snow)
– maintain a healthy body weight 🔅
– grow my locs to my shoulders 🔅
– eat mostly vegetables
✅ start a blog (which you’re reading right now)
✅ get a certificate in a trade or skill (certificate in Critical Issues in Urban Education and I’m currently enrolled at UMass)
– find a church home
✅ practice positivity (yoga and reading the Bible)
✅ relocate outside of NOLA
– relocate outside of CT

Financial Goals
– $15,000 saved in savings & investments
– lay the foundation of my own business 🔅

Fun Goals
– zip lining
– snorkeling
– visiting another country for 3 weeks to 2 months
– hiking somewhere famous 🔅
– camping with friends
– vacation with sisters and boyfriends
– visit Jamaica
– visit Greece
– visit Dominican Republic
– visit Virgin Islands
– visit DC 🔅
– visit Washington state 🔅

Family Goals
– long term relationship/engagement
– marriage
– moving in together
– buying a home/building a tiny home
✅ have kids (she’s almost here)

If you ever feel stuck or you’re just a list person like me I highly recommend that you create a long term plan and start checking off your accomplishments. Believe me, it feels great!

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Surprise! I’m …

PREGNANT! 33 weeks pregnant to be exact.

I’m definitely one of those people who likes to hold my information close to myself. I barely even wanted to tell family  … not because I was ashamed but because it was my business to tell. But anyone who has had their parents’ first grandchild knows that the news seems to find its way out anyway.

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This was me trying to be in control of loose lips 😂

After telling family, there was the whole debacle of when to share the news on social networks. A part of me wanted to post weekly updates because they were cute and pregnant women received a lot of love from their online friends. But there was another part of me that didn’t really care about that. Again, I’m a private person. So I settled on a compromise! I decided that I would finally make my mother to be status public when I completed my maternity photo shoot. And I stuck to that.

The amount of love and support I received was overwhelming, in a good way! I’m sure there’s plenty of moms to be who wonder if they should share their pregnancy with the public and honestly it’s a personal choice! Do whatever makes you comfortable.

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I’m not sure how much I’ll share with the world after giving birth – who knows, this blog could easily turn into a mommy blog. I guess we’ll just wait and see!

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Find Your Peace, Wherever You Are

During the past two years I have really grown to know myself. Being away from close friends and family who are my anchors has forced me to rely on myself for solice.

I’m not going to lie, some days I get so overwhelmed and I stay in bed from dawn to dusk. But other days I’m committed to finding joy even in the darkest of times. When my anxiety isn’t overwhelming, I can muster up the energy to get out and explore.

My peace of choice is the outdoors; I love to be surrounded by nature, whether in a park, roaming through a forest or relaxing on a beach. Something about fresh air and greenery brings my soul true peace.

Lately I’ve been struggling with my emotions and balancing a lot of major life changes. All of it began to wear me down and I let it. But this past weekend was different. I woke up at 7 am on a mission to find peace! Without much thought, or hesitation, I drove to the Couturie Forest in New Orleans’ City Park. I had been here once before, and somehow my soul just knew it was what I needed. I walked around for about 30 minutes and allowed nature to clear my mind. I left feeling 100x lighter and knew I’d be back tomorrow.

Here is where I’ve found a little peace in this robust city! Check out some nice pictures from my excursion below:

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Trying times are just that – trying. When you finally have the desire to do something… go for it! Go out and find a piece of peace.

Warmly,
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Dear Future Husband,

How are you doing?

I know you’re out there probably dating around. You probably don’t know what you want from your lover. Honestly, you probably don’t know how you want to be loved.

Or maybe you’re just turned off to the idea of love. You’ve probably had your heart broken by your first love and now you don’t trust women.

These relationships that you’re in aren’t quite enough. You know that these women are place holders and you probably don’t think you’re ready for anything serious.

Well with all that said, I just want you to know that I love you. Whoever you are!

You are man enough – and you deserve to be loved. And when we say I do, I promise to love you until the end of time.

Now that I’ve stroked your ego enough … here’s what I need from you my Future Husband:

– First, I need you to make time for me. “I need love and affection!” Little gestures like flowers, cards, or handwritten notes will make my heart melt.

– And most importantly, I need you to open up your heart to me. Let me in, allow me to know your deepest fears and your future ambitions. Deep connections mean more than physical ones.

Future Husband I know you’ll understand! These things (along with chemistry)are all I need. You know what they say “a happy wife, equals a happy life!”

I can’t wait to meet you !

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Do You Believe in Karma?

imageDo you believe that there’s just this natural system of checks and balances that keeps track of all the good and ugly you put out into the world, and gives you back what you dished out?

I do. I believe that bad things happen to everyone to keep us humble and to remind us to trust in God. But I truly believe that good things happen to those who are good.

I know that I’m no angel but as I get older and mature, I realize that life is so much more worth living when things are positive. And we all know that positivity breeds more positivity (and the inverse is true as well).

I lay up at night thinking about my near and distant future and most nights I worry. Will I ever find my perfect job or spouse? Will I make enough money? Will I be happy?

And most nights I tell myself not to worry. If I do good, then my karma will be good.

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The Power of Faith

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This past month has been a difficult one. My finances were low, I got sick (and misdiagnosed with a kidney stone) and everything around me seemed to be crumbling. Everyday when I logged onto Facebook or turned on the TV I was reminded that racism is definitely alive and well. All of these things, these issues, began to consume me. I was angry and extremely unhappy, with the world and myself. 

Examples of things I dealt with this past month: My car insurance rate increased, out of the blue my back began to hurt and I could barely walk, this presidential election seemed to be a complete joke, people of color were being murdered by cops left and right, and my white friends weren’t doing enough to show their support for black lives matter but showed their support for pokèmon go. 🙄

Each and every one of those events felt like a personal attack against me. So personal that I had gotten to the point where I was fine not being friends with people that did not vocally support BLM. So personal that lately I’ve been using social media less and less to completely avoid the news and some of my ignorant “friends”.

In reality I have been wanting to blog about my perspective on the black lives matter movement and police brutality, but I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it. I’ve voiced my opinion on Facebook and many people have told me that my words are inspiring to them. But in a world so cruel where am I supposed to get MY inspiration from? 

Luckily I know this wonderful man named Jesus Christ who has guided me to peace throughout my life and during these past few weeks. Reading the bible keeps me sane, happy and healthy. Faith in whoever or whatever you follow is important, especially in trying times.

Believe me, God is always listening. Say thanks for what you have and pray for what you need.

 

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Sometimes you just have to let go and let God! Doing so, I was able to come out of that dark place and right now things are on the up and up for me. I just started a new job, got a better grip on my finances, started a black lives matter cohort so I can surround myself with people who are like minded, and all of my body aches have ceased at the moment.

And you know what? That was all possible because I had faith in God!

God bless,

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Locus of Control

As my 24th birthday approaches I find myself reflecting on what I’ve accomplished so far and where I’m headed. In 2014 I graduated from UConn with a B.S. in Business Administration and some would say that I should be proud and I am, but I don’t use my degree at all.

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Instead, after graduation I joined Teach For America to teach middle school science. I’m all about empowering Black youth but I can’t help but to feel like this is not my life’s calling. I can see myself teaching for the next few years, but then what?

A part of me would love to continue to do work in education, while another part of me would love to do something cool and creative. And a bigger part of me just wants to skip ahead and start a family, travel the world, and make money. But how do I get there?

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Honestly I still don’t know. But I know that I can’t stress myself out trying to pick the right career path to perfectly plan out my future. I’ve had to learn the hard way that there are only a few things within my locus of control. With this new mindset I’ve decided to be in control of my happiness and success. And to do that I’ve created a list of goals that I wish to accomplish within the next seven years.

Personal Goals
– buy a car
– maintain a healthy body weight
– grow my locs to my shoulders
– eat mostly vegetables
– start a blog 
– get a certificate in a trade or skill
– find a church home
– practice positivity

Financial Goals
– $15,000 saved in savings & investments
– begin laying the foundation of my own business

Fun Goals
– zip lining
– snorkeling
– visiting another country for 3 weeks to 2 months
– hiking somewhere famous
– camping with friends
– vacation with sisters and boyfriends 🙏
– visit Jamaica
– visit Greece
– visit Dominican Republic
– visit Virgin Islands

Family Goals
– long term relationship/engagement
– marriage
– moving in together
– buying a home/building a tiny home
– agreeing to have kids

Truthfully not everything on my list is entirely within my locus of control. However, accomplishing these goals will allow me to finally feel successful. I know that there are a ton of goals on my list, and some may think it’s impossible to achieve ALL of them, but it gives me satisfaction to know what I want and to have the ability to cross things off when they’ve been accomplished.

And plus, seven years is a long time – anything is possible!

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